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Hello, it's carol again....

I live in Pa. and my Grandchildren live in N.J. My son is living with another woman and had a baby with her...Almost two years he is living with her..

My son's wife will not let me see my Grandchildren or speak with them on the phone.

My son has the children on his days off for the day, (tues. and Wed.)

I work those days. I have week ends off....So, cannot see them.

I can't afford a lawyer... If I found a way to file visitation rights does any one know what State? Where I live or the Grandchildren live?

My son cannot afford a divorce that he could put it in his divorce papers that I could see the kids.

My heart is broken..ages 8 and 5... they both love me so much.....

Thanks for any advice....Oh, I did stay out of their fights. She is doing this to hurt my son.....He does pay support on his own, not a court order....250$ a week.....Thank you, Carol

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Hi Carol--

I believe you must file for visitation in the state where the minor children reside. Here is a link to a law forum which may be able to assist you better

http://forum.freeadvice.com

Once on this forum, scroll down to "Family Law" and there are many topics where you can post and find information.

Hope this helps! :D

You are all very kind to me. So many problems and now this....I will let you know what happens. thanks so much....Carol

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I have "personal" knowledge of this kind of thing happening. Basically, the grandparents sued for rights because the parents of the child were divorced and they could not see the grandchild. The case actually made it to the family court. Both sides had lawyers and were told to work out a visitation schedule by the judge that the grandparents could see the child. The only problem is that the grandmother wanted things her way and not what was in the best interest of the child. The father of the child ended up writing the court on the behalf of his ex-wife. His mother was one angry person. She ended up dropping her lawsuit.

In the case Carol here, she sounds like she really loves the grandchildren and wants whats best for them. Maybe she could bring the case in family court in her own state and the mother could appear by the telephone. I have heard of cases happening that way in court. Either way, its not going to be easy and painless. But these cases do happen.

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I have "personal" knowledge of this kind of thing happening. Basically, the grandparents sued for rights because the parents of the child were divorced and they could not see the grandchild. The case actually made it to the family court. Both sides had lawyers and were told to work out a visitation schedule by the judge that the grandparents could see the child. The only problem is that the grandmother wanted things her way and not what was in the best interest of the child. The father of the child ended up writing the court on the behalf of his ex-wife. His mother was one angry person. She ended up dropping her lawsuit.

In the case Carol here, she sounds like she really loves the grandchildren and wants whats best for them. Maybe she could bring the case in family court in her own state and the mother could appear by the telephone. I have heard of cases happening that way in court. Either way, its not going to be easy and painless. But these cases do happen.

There isn't any talking to my son's wife. She had said that any of my son's family who has any thing do with his new baby will not see her children. I even bought her a xmas present.... I will keep you informed...Thanks, Carol

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Carol,

While your rights are a great unknown here in this forum, you could contact a local legal link in your area for free advice or legal representation if you are unable to afford a lawyer. By the way, bankruptcy lawyers are also free of charge in most locations if people cannot afford to retain one. So, get out your phone book!

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Carol,

While your rights are a great unknown here in this forum, you could contact a local legal link in your area for free advice or legal representation if you are unable to afford a lawyer. By the way, bankruptcy lawyers are also free of charge in most locations if people cannot afford to retain one. So, get out your phone book!

thanks for the advice....Carol

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  • 1 month later...

My son went to court. He had a attorney. At the last min. she dropped the restraining order and she agreeded that he could see the children 5 and 8 after a month of not seeing them any time.

He had to sign a statement that his girlfriend of 2 years and a baby together that the girlfriend is not to see the children or go to my son's house.

The attorney said to wait a month and admend it.

I did go on legal advice and some of the postings were not nice.

Her lawyer said to the judge that only my son can pick them up and my son'ts lawyer said they do not agreed to that. He said can any one be in the car but his girlfriend and the judge said yes, meaning me, the GrandMother.

The problem.....I live 4 hrs. from them. My son and I have different days off. He works night shift at the casino in Atlantic City and sleeps during the day.

He cannot pick the kids up on week ends for me. It is a 40 mins drive for him to Wildwood, NJ. His girlfriend works nights as well and he must help her with the baby during the day, they both work all night. Cannot change their shifts.

She will not let me pick up the kids and they are not to go to my daughter's house as well. This is not a written agreedment but her words to my other son.

Why, because my daughter and I were in court with my son and she knew we both had written statements and she said we should had stayed out of it.... This is my son !!!!

Can't afford a lawyer and can't get legal aid.

The kids love us so much. My heart is broken. I bonded with her first born....

Can't take off work and keep going to court in NJ.. I live in PA.

At least my son gets to see his children. She wanted him to visit the kids at her house, my son said NO.....Too much fighting.

I don't deserve this. I was so good to the kids with babysitting when they needed me while married.

Now, another big problem.... My ex had lived with my son and his wife...

He still lives with my son's wife.

My hsuband never knew of this....He put me through hell with my divorce.

I am going to court with my son for his divorce...

She said that she is going to write my husband a letter that my ex was living with she and my son when I would go to visit the kids on week ends. My nerves are shot with this as well.

There are pictures of my ex taken at her house to prove that he was living there.

Believe me, she is a fighter for 30 years old. I am 54.

It's her way....

Sorry for the long letter, but nobody really knows the whole situation. I am still taking the chance and sticking by my son. Have to testify against her on how she was abusive to my son. Thanks for listening, Carol

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