whocares Posted January 18, 2008 Report Share Posted January 18, 2008 Gee what a terrible night I had last night, Hubs and I have been married 23 years...well my daughter said something I said out of context and he blew a fuse....we yelled and screamed for about 30 minutes last night till he left...I have not seen him all day...;( Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WickeDay Posted January 18, 2008 Report Share Posted January 18, 2008 It happens. 23-years? That's amazing. I'm really curious as to what you said. lol. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CleverCynic Posted January 18, 2008 Report Share Posted January 18, 2008 Any precedent for this walk-out? 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
merkurfan Posted January 18, 2008 Report Share Posted January 18, 2008 Yikes!! He'll come back.. just needs some time to cool off. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amerikaner83 Posted January 18, 2008 Report Share Posted January 18, 2008 I agree with Merk.He needs some cool off time...it'll be OK once he cools down. DF and I are like that too - heated arguments, walkouts, then the one who left comes back with a cooler head. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moneedshelp Posted January 18, 2008 Report Share Posted January 18, 2008 The cooling off period will do both of you some good. I guess you expend alot of energy yelling and screaming. He probably needed a rest Seriously it won't be so bad in a few hours. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CleverCynic Posted January 18, 2008 Report Share Posted January 18, 2008 He's got big ones... I'd probably be coming back to changed locks. Well I'd say that in these situations, the walker has all the power, leaving the other to just worry. Leaving for an hour is cooling off. All night and day is sort of immature and dodgy, designed more to punish than anything else. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CloudX Posted January 18, 2008 Report Share Posted January 18, 2008 sometimes a big fight is good for the relationship... often times I have found that in relationships that there is such thing as too much of a good thing... Kinda restarts it, I dont know... But you guys have been married 4 times longer than any of my serious relationships, so Im sure you know more abut it than i do. Good luck, he'll be back though.... 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Freak Posted January 18, 2008 Report Share Posted January 18, 2008 I agree. While there are other ways to work things out, it is better this way than to remain in a situation like that. Let things cool down. Maybe there are other things going on that you just are not aware of yet, and this was just the trigger. I've never left for longer than a couple of hours in the 15 years I've been married, but leaving for a couple of hours and driving, helped me clear my head. On a lighter note in response to Clever's comment, did you know that 95% of all homeless men left home without their keys Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
whocares Posted January 18, 2008 Author Report Share Posted January 18, 2008 I can't remember the last time we had a fight....Can't discuss the issue...I know he will be back when he cools off...but till then...I'm too sad ;( 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
merkurfan Posted January 18, 2008 Report Share Posted January 18, 2008 wasen't it Foxworthy who said 50% of the homeless are people that walked out of a fight at home and forgot their keys???When me and the wife have a fight neither one of us leaves. We both know, with or with out our keys.. We are not getting back in Thankfully, we don't fight much.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
whocares Posted January 19, 2008 Author Report Share Posted January 19, 2008 He's at my daughters house and has been since the other night...he's going to get tired of that, but now that I've had some time to think...maybe he can stay there a little longer...I enjoyed the whole bed last night, not having the covers stolen...and guess what no animals in the bed either...I miss him, I hope he enjoys his first long weekend in a month, with the baby crying and all kinds of traffic in the park where my daugher lives.I'm painting my kitchen cabinets today...so I'll be busy. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
merkurfan Posted January 19, 2008 Report Share Posted January 19, 2008 and guess what no animals in the bed either...uhh him? or the dog? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lavs412 Posted January 19, 2008 Report Share Posted January 19, 2008 Who......He'll get over it! ....20 years into my marriage I may have Pussy footed around, now 30+ years, I'd confront both of them at the same time with a "Yo, let's get something straight!" If he chooses to stay pissed off, then tell he can kiss your A$$ and then go about your day! He'll be back.....and make up Sex is always great.........He'll run out of underwear soon enough!! Marriage is like a diet, gotta shake things up a bit every now and then!! lolNot to change the subject, but what color you painting the cabinets? I have cabinets that need painting and I don't want them white.......I've been looking all week for color ideas.....can't find any!.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
whocares Posted January 19, 2008 Author Report Share Posted January 19, 2008 I'm going gray, light gray for the frames and dark gray for the doors, got new pewter handles and am planning a stainless steel look blacksplash...the walls are a blue gray so I think it will look good, if not well then I will paint them again.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
isislc Posted January 19, 2008 Report Share Posted January 19, 2008 Why don't you guys try stenciling? You know, just the right stencil and colors and they will look great. Oh, you said something about the men?.... I would be enjoying my alone time if I were you! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WickeDay Posted January 20, 2008 Report Share Posted January 20, 2008 He's at my daughters house and has been since the other night...he's going to get tired of that, but now that I've had some time to think...maybe he can stay there a little longer...I enjoyed the whole bed last night, not having the covers stolen...and guess what no animals in the bed either...I miss him, I hope he enjoys his first long weekend in a month, with the baby crying and all kinds of traffic in the park where my daugher lives.I'm painting my kitchen cabinets today...so I'll be busy.Thatah girl! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stefdr Posted January 20, 2008 Report Share Posted January 20, 2008 My ex loved to start arguments over anything. If I was wrong about something, and she were pissed, she would keep digging at it until I would blow up; and that takes a while. If she had done something wrong, it was still my fault because she argued that it was something I had done originally that made her screw up.We were driving home from somewhere one afternoon and she was in one of her regular argumentative moods, and I wouldn't respond at all. We stopped at a traffic light and she got out of the car yelling that she was just going to walk because she couldn't stand to be in the car with me. By the time the light turned green she had gotten a little ways down the street, thinking that I was going to pull up beside her and tell her to get back in the car. We were about 2 miles from the house, and it was starting to rain. I drove right by. The pleasant spring rain and the two mile walk home helped her to cool off. Get out of the car and say you'd rather walk? Hope you're wearing comfortable shoes. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
brokeinok Posted January 20, 2008 Report Share Posted January 20, 2008 They must be making up... no word since noonish! I'm not very argumentative, fighting wears me out. I've been with my sweet, wonderful BF for three years and we've never had an argument. We compliment each other nicely and it is really something! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
isislc Posted January 20, 2008 Report Share Posted January 20, 2008 I'm always fighting with my DF. I like to make sure bills are paid and such, and stuff us women like to take care of. Of course, he's 11 yrs younger than me so he's still stuck in the "I just want to be on the computer and play video games all day" phase. lol. This phase definitely doesn't apply to any of the guys here. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stefdr Posted January 20, 2008 Report Share Posted January 20, 2008 I don't play video games ALL day when I'm at home. I need to sleep a few hours at least. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
isislc Posted January 20, 2008 Report Share Posted January 20, 2008 Uh huh. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hedwig Posted January 20, 2008 Report Share Posted January 20, 2008 I don't play video games ALL day when I'm at home. I need to sleep a few hours at least. So why aren't you sleeping now? 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
isislc Posted January 20, 2008 Report Share Posted January 20, 2008 So why aren't you sleeping now?You keep missing all the threads that I work 60hrs a week and I'm an insomniac. lol. I'm at work right now cleaning up the aftereffects of last night's problems. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stefdr Posted January 20, 2008 Report Share Posted January 20, 2008 So why aren't you sleeping now?I'm at work, its 11 a.m. here. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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