What would you do???????

[ceowens]

First of all, let me just preface with this....

I HATE PARENTS WHO GIVE KIDS CELL PHONES. And by "kid", I mean if you're not old enough to get in a car and drive (an instance where you might need a phone to call home) then you're not old enough to have a cell phone.

**end of rant**

So.....this obnoxious 3rd grader (with a personal cell phone) keeps calling my daughter ( 7 years old) and leaving rude messages. She called right before Christmas and left some kind of snotty message about "guess what? I'm invited to Britney's Christmas party and we're not inviting you". :roll: So today she calls MY CELL and leaves a message that says "Carleigh, I got my boyfriend back and you better not try and take him again". So, I try to call her back to tell her that I;m going to call her Mom, and I get "This is Taylor's cell phone. Leave me a message and I *might* call you back." OMG!!!! I would pull her hair out if I could get hold of her. I've called 4 times and she won't answer. Her last name is Jones. Do you know how many Joneses are in the phone book????? How do I handle this??? I really just want the kid to answer so I can scare the crap out of her. Daughter says she has no idea what she's done to this girl and that she avoids her at school at all costs. They aren't even in the same class. What gives with the drama???

[rmuse00]

OMG!!! I feel your pain Meana! I have dealt with kids bullying my kid. A couple tried bullying my 6 year old and I stood almost inside of the bus and had her point out the girls pulling her hair. They were 8 yr olds. Boy where they terrified when the Buss driver made them get up from their seats. I was bullied so I will never let my kids be bullies or bullied.

Obviously, this girl is jealous of your daughter. Seems she desperately craves attention and since she has a cellphone she is either too spoiled or to neglected, of course just my opinion.

Maybe send her a text and ask her to call you (Carleigh) and that you've got "something" to tell her. She might think it's gossip and call you right back. Then you can freakin give her a piece of your mind.

[ceowens]

OMG!!! I feel your pain Meana! I have dealt with kids bullying my kid. A couple tried bullying my 6 year old and I stood almost inside of the bus and had her point out the girls pulling her hair. They were 8 yr olds. Boy where they terrified when the Buss driver made them get up from their seats. I was bullied so I will never let my kids be bullies or bullied.

Obviously, this girl is jealous of your daughter. Seems she desperately craves attention and since she has a cellphone she is either too spoiled or to neglected, of course just my opinion.

Maybe send her a text and ask her to call you (Carleigh) got you've got "something" to tell her. She might think it's gossip and call you right back. Then you freaking give her a piece of your mind.

I am sooooo texting her. ::devillaugh::

[ceowens]

Text sent....... Now I wait.

[rmuse00]

Ha ha no gossip for her!

[ceowens]

The little hootchie ain't callin' me back.

[jetscarbie]

ohhhhh kid drama. I have 2 girls...16 &11..haha

You should talk to the school principal. They take that bullying stuff pretty seriously now. Talking to the parnets WON"T DO ANYTHING BUT MAKE IT WORSE.

If the girl is a bully...she learned it from somewhere (parnets are probably just like her)

[ceowens]

ohhhhh kid drama. I have 2 girls...16 &11..haha

You should talk to the school principal. They take that bullying stuff pretty seriously now. Talking to the parnets WON"T DO ANYTHING BUT MAKE IT WORSE.

If the girl is a bully...she learned it from somewhere (parnets are probably just like her)[/quote]

That's what I'm thinking. And, now she is running amuck with a cell phone and they have no idea who she is calling or what she is talking about.

But now I've decided that she's a little chicken $H!T because she won't call back.

[rmuse00]

So it's worse than I suspected. I'm surprised they even let her have a cell phone at school. Our kids school do not allow them in school.

If it is affecting others in her school as well then I would definitely bring it up to the principal. I thought this was going on after school hours.

[whocares]

Ask your daughter about her? ask if she knows the parents name and then call them...how about call blocking her number...then she can't leave nasty messages...maybe some other parent knows her parents

[nimrod]

That just makes me tired all over...I don't envy you.

I was a little surprised when I went over to my little sister's house and found that her 6 y/o boy had a cell phone. Seems that when she & hubby decided to divorce, he turned off her phone, got it back from her, reactivated it & gave it to the kid. He was calling her number so he could hear himself talking over the answering machine.

That didn't last too long. I have ZERO patience.

Good luck!

[chelseagirl]

Ask your daughter about her? ask if she knows the parents name and then call them...how about call blocking her number...then she can't leave nasty messages...maybe some other parent knows her parents

I agree with blocking her number. AND...also go to the school about it. Talking to her parents probably won't do a bit of good! The parents will probably stick up for their daughter and turn it all around. Like said earlier....she probably learned all the bullying from her parents in the first place. Good luck and I hope you can get it all straightened out!

[ceowens]

So it's worse than I suspected. I'm surprised they even let her have a cell phone at school. Our kids school do not allow them in school.

If it is affecting others in her school as well then I would definitely bring it up to the principal. I thought this was going on after school hours.

Not during school. School is out today for MLK holiday.

[ceowens]

I agree with blocking her number. AND...also go to the school about it. Talking to her parents probably won't do a bit of good! The parents will probably stick up for their daughter and turn it all around. Like said earlier....she probably learned all the bullying from her parents in the first place. Good luck and I hope you can get it all straightened out!

Her teacher is also my son's den leader for Boy Scouts. I'm going to get her aside at Scouts tomorrow night and see what I can find out about this little girl.

[virtualrn]

I agree that it is a very bad idea to give a kid a cell phone but let's face it, kids have 'em. Something I never had to deal with. However, it would appear that an adult is taking on a third grader.....not a good idea to do battle with your daughter's bully....what does your daughter learn from this? If this little girl is leaving obnoxious messages on your cell phone, block the call. If you do know the teacher, let her ask the little girl why she is calling so and so's mother and leaving rude messages.

[rmuse00]

That is a good idea to kind of ask around especially if you know other parents or teachers that might have dealings with her.

What I meant was if her behavior is affecting other girls in school. Is she bullying other girls? Didn't know if she just has it out for your daughter or if your daughter knows of others she has picked on.

[2001Badyear]

If you can get her e-mail address you can pretend to be a boy that likes her and lead her on for a while and then tell her you hate her and............

Oh that's right, might not turn out so well.

Virtual is right, with all due repsect parents should not be directly taking these things on with a child, no matter how obnoxious and rude. Find the parent, call the school or meet with the principle, but texting directly???

[isislc]

If you can get her e-mail address you can pretend to be a boy that likes her and lead her on for a while and then tell her you hate her and............

Oh that's right, might not turn out so well.

Virtual is right, with all due repsect parents should not be directly taking these things on with a child, no matter how obnoxious and rude. Find the parent, call the school or meet with the principle, but texting directly???

Bad that isn't even funny, if you can't contribute to this thread plz DON'T RESPOND WITH SOMETHING STUPID! Even suggesting that jokingly is WAY over the line.

I personally would call the police and tell them that she is getting harrassing phone calls from this girl. I WOULD also reference that you don't want a situation like what Bad mentioned. I can guarantee you that they will show up at the school, have the parents called and speak to BOTH the mom and the kid.

[2001Badyear]

Bad that isn't even funny, if you can't contribute to this thread plz DON'T RESPOND WITH SOMETHING STUPID! Even suggesting that jokingly is WAY over the line.

I personally would call the police and tell them that she is getting harrassing phone calls from this girl. I WOULD also reference that you don't want a situation like what Bad mentioned. I can guarantee you that they will show up at the school, have the parents called and speak to BOTH the mom and the kid.

Gee, then you entirely missed the point, didn't you? Perhaps you don't watch the news where this just happened where a mother, in trying to get even with her daughters tormentor caused the girl to kill herself.

That was a contribution, as opposed to adults here egging on improper behavior. You need to learn how to read.

[isislc]

Gee, then you entirely missed the point, didn't you? Perhaps you don't watch the news where this just happened where a mother, in trying to get even with her daughters tormentor caused the girl to kill herself.

That was a contribution, as opposed to adults here egging on improper behavior. You need to learn how to read.

Well, I guess YOU missed the issue. As a matter of fact I did hear about that and you made a joke about her doing the exact same thing that could have the same outcome, you might want to think about that. It's not a funny situation and from the way you came off, you think it is.

[2001Badyear]

Well, I guess YOU missed the issue. As a matter of fact I did hear about that and you made a joke about her doing the exact same thing that could have the same outcome, you might want to think about that. It's not a funny situation and from the way you came off, you think it is.

There was no joke, READ what I wrote, and get off your high horse already. The thread was "what would you do" and I choose irony to make a point that was based in fact to get peoples attention quite intentionally. How about you don't tell me what my point was.

[isislc]

There was no joke, READ what I wrote, and get off your high horse already. The thread was "what would you do" and I choose irony to make a point that was based in fact to get peoples attention quite intentionally. How about you don't tell me what my point was.

Irony or not, it still isn't right to even bring something like that up unless you make reference of it. That fact that I have kids puts me on that high horse and that is one I'm not about to come down from as you put it. As for getting people's attention, you may want to try a different method because I can guarantee you I won't be the last person you upset with comments like that.

[2001Badyear]

If you read the entire thread, and I did, there were people I think that were encouraging or at least not discouraging calling the little girl, texting her until Virtual chimed in. I agreed with her. I immediately thought of the situation where the woman did what she did in ironically NEARLY same manner. I can imagine that same woman on this board and you egging on the behavior.

Just because you're not able to grasp the concept of an ironic answer to a question, in order for the point to be made, means you're just not able to deal with a higher level of thinking. That's on you, not me. If you're not able to connect the two situations than you really don't get it.

You're so sure you're right, that I bet you have not re-read what and exactly how I wrote it, in a attempt to make that point, even giving the opinions that would be a proper way in this case to handle it.

You have kids? Sorry for them if this is this is how you too might handle things.

[WickeDay]

Privatize your number, call and tell her she's won tickets to Hannah Montana, but that her parents must call (on your home or other number) before you can send them, and when her parents call tell them what's going on. :'>

[isislc]

If you read the entire thread, and I did, there were people I think that were encouraging or at least not discouraging calling the little girl, texting her until Virtual chimed in. I agreed with her. I immediately thought of the situation where the woman did what she did in ironically NEARLY same manner. I can imagine that same woman on this board and you egging on the behavior.

Just because you're not able to grasp the concept of an ironic answer to a question, in order for the point to be made, means you're just not able to deal with a higher level of thinking. That's on you, not me. If you're not able to connect the two situations than you really don't get it.

You're so sure you're right, that I bet you have not re-read what and exactly how I wrote it, in a attempt to make that point, even giving the opinions that would be a proper way in this case to handle it.

You have kids? Sorry for them if this is this is how you too might handle things.

That's real nice, obviously you can't grasp the idea that your answer may have been callous in any way. I have read the thread and reread it. If you noticed, not once have I tried to talk you down except that I feel you made an insensitive comment that was out of line and asked you do not do that. I take care of my kids just fine, and you would be well to leave them out of here since you have already broken a few rules in just how you responded to my level of thinking. I refuse to argue with you, I have better things to do.

When she was calling and texting the girl, I doubt she was posing as anything other than a mother wanting her to leave her daughter alone as well as stop calling. Virtual's suggestion is correct in talking to the mother since most kids are going to do what they want anyways. Again as it was mentioned before, even the parents may blow it off too as it's "they're just being kids".