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Okay.... so let me start out by saying that I work in a computer department with 3 other guys and my boss. I use AutoCad to draw up pipelines and tanks for an industrial testing company. I am the most experienced one here, have been here the longest, and by far the most skilled at what I do, (not just tooting my own horn here I promise). I'm quiet, I work hard and don't bother anybody.

So.... this week my boss is out of town on a job and he gave me and my coworkers each about 15 files to get done. So I come in this morning and there are about 5 more files on top of the files I needed to do on my desk. So I'm like WTF? And immediately I know who the hell gave me these files. I swear guys every frickin time our boss leaves town for a job this one dude goes into "boss" mode and thinks he runs everything, but the only person he does it to is ME! So I don't say anything to him but I go and put the files on my boss' desk with a note that says, "somebody put these on my desk without a note and I don't know why." So what probably happened is this lazy dude took some files off his stack and put them on my stack!!! This is not the 1st time he has done this before. A few times he has even went threw my drawings on my desk and taken the easier files I had and replaced them with harder files he had!!! And let me remind you guys that this guy is not my senior. I'm young, (25), but this guys is like 19 or 20 and has only been here like 2 years, I've been here for over 5.

One time, he actually came over to my desk and told me he wanted me to work on some other files. I was all like, "what are you talking about, Scot (our boss), gave me these and this is what I'm working on," and he backed away. But this little weasel is always pulling little crap like this.

Forgot to mention that his father is in management here. Also should mention that my father and grandfather own the damn company. :lol: So I don't know if that threatens him or what his problem is. I'm not trying the run the damn company-I'm going to school to be a teacher. All I can think of is that it is because I have female anatomy. :roll::roll::roll::roll:

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The more you let him get away with it, the more he will take advantage of you. Make sure you document everything he does, make good notes. Then take it to the proper chain of command. If your boss doesnt handle it, go over his head until its taken care of. Its not fair that you get treated like that, and you dont deserve it. I hope things get better for you!8]

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Wow, this guy sounds like a winner. I would say it's time to do something about it. He'll keep on doing it and he's probably counting on you not going to your family about it either.

Yeah this guy knows I don't like to get my family involved in anything, but he is really pushing my patience. When me and my brothers first started working for our father, he told us if we had a problem we should take it up with our bosses directly because he did not show favoritism. My Dad is harder on my and my brothers than any of his other employees. Maybe it is time to take it to Daddy......:lol:

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Deanna,

Hard to tell what soemone elses motive might be, perhaps just to challenge you and see what you will do.

I would think it might be in your interest to directly confront him and stand up for yourself. Sure, you could involve daddy, but that would simply, in my opinion, look like you can't stand up for yourself. That has worse long term implications.

I have found that bullies, in general, get their power because people don't stand up and confront them. When you do, they more times than not back down very quickly.

Just my $0.02

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Deanna,

Hard to tell what soemone elses motive might be, perhaps just to challenge you and see what you will do.

I would think it might be in your interest to directly confront him and stand up for yourself. Sure, you could involve daddy, but that would simply, in my opinion, look like you can't stand up for yourself. That has worse long term implications.

I have found that bullies, in general, get their power because people don't stand up and confront them. When you do, they more times than not back down very quickly.

Just my $0.02

Hey thank! I was joking about going to my father. He wouldn't do anything anyways. He would tell me to handle it myself or go to my boss, who is out of town. So what I did was put the files that he gave me on my boss desk so when my boss comes back and sees those files are not done, he will know who put them on my desk and it will come out. I'm so sick of him being lazy! All this guy does is watch movies and play frickin Warcraft all day. I should get his paycheck!

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Your father sounds like a smart man and gave you sound advice. People like the lazy guy in your office have a way of showing their true colors, sooner or later, and will fail all by themselves. I'd just keep doing your job, to the best of your ability, and the rest will work itself out....in time.

Good luck, and get back to work.

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I honestly would take the files back to the guy with a "hey, I don't know how these ended up on my desk but I believe they belong to you. You might want to hang onto them till the Big Max gets back so he can sort it out." Put it right back in his lap-being females doesn't mean we are doormats.

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As him if he has anymore cleanup work he wants you to do?...then tell him it's sexual harassment to mistreat a coworker of the opposite sex. Tell him he needs to do his own work and quit harassing you...

Don't be afraid, he is trying to push you cause he knows your in the lead...and start treating him like the irresponsible kid he is.

BTW I worked for a company who did not hire me cause women bring too much drama to an office...well the 100,000.00 lawsuit I filed and settled our of court, confirmed their drama theory. And I was happy to leave with a nice chunk of change.

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I'm young, (25), but this guys is like 19 or 20 and has only been here like 2 years, I've been here for over 5.

I have worked with a lot of AutoCAD drafters and mechanical engineers (I am a technical writer but I have to interact with them to obtain what I need for my books) and this behavior is usually from immature people (in other words, very young people).

It could be your anatomy but I wouldn't jump to that conclusion first. There are a lot of companies who hate having employees that are under 25 or even 30 years old because they pull crap like that all the time. Kids are hard to work with and a lot of them have [EXPLETIVE DELETED] work ethics and attitudes.

I hate calling them kids because I was once young too but they were really hard to deal with. Of course, when a kid pulls crap like that on you, he is probably assuming that you are just an easy target.

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BTW atleast once a week this guy tells me how nice I look or how he likes my hair.........etc. Then, when our boss is gone he immediately tries to put work off on me or let me knows who is boss....... :lol:

Yeah I know I'm young but I've also held a steady job for almost 10 years, not many 25 year olds can say that. I have great work ethic, (learned from my father), and I actually do like to work. This guy I actually found out is 21 so he should not be as immature as he is! But then again they do say that women mature faster than men right??? :lol::lol::lol::lol:

So when my boss comes back he will see those files on his desk and he will know he gave them to my coworker. It should be interesting to say the least.

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I think you hit the nail on the head-it is about work ethic. Gender and age hae nothing to do with it....there is always got to be one in the bunch who attempts to do as little as possible while attempting to ingratiate themselves....

That is absolutely right... And age 21 isn't mature either... And I too have seen immature people at age 60...

Just like the poor, the world is always going to have [EXPLETIVE DELETED]...

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