whocares Posted January 23, 2009 Report Share Posted January 23, 2009 Anyone else?I work 80 hours a week...at the shop and at my other job....It seems I never catch a break, I come home everynight and have to cook and clean...Hubby works 4 hours a day and he does not even take his plate off the table.I always have laundry and dishes to do and I usually hit the bed past midnight, and get up at 4 am for my other job fri, sat and sunday, I work 6 am to 6pm.When I'm at the shop it's usually 9 am to 7 or 8 at night...I just needed to vent a bit. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chester P. Dexter Posted January 23, 2009 Report Share Posted January 23, 2009 You know what? The winter blues are rampant right now. Everyone, including myself, has been feeling low. It'll pass. Do something fun for yourself and take some time to relax. You know what they say about all work.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JustaTexan Posted January 23, 2009 Report Share Posted January 23, 2009 Girl I've been feeling the same way lately. I'm just all blah. Work has been crazy and so has my personal life. I do so much and get little appreciation. I don't have any advice but I sure do understand where you are coming from. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
whocares Posted January 23, 2009 Author Report Share Posted January 23, 2009 Thanks Guys...ya might be right. Oh and did I mention no contact about the car yet....or the fact that I have to work 4 days this weekend, F, S, S and M....48 hours. And we need to get our house finished.1000.00 in electric bills this month between the shop and the house.I could go on and on, but you would just fall asleep. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ravenous Wolf Posted January 23, 2009 Report Share Posted January 23, 2009 I come home everynight and have to cook and clean...Hubby works 4 hours a day and he does not even take his plate off the table.What is up with that?Even though I have been extremely ill (I didn't go to work for 30 days this past November and December), I would feel so terribly awful if I ever pulled that on my wife. In fact, I encourage my wife to leave the house as often as she can (and take as long as she wants) because we have kids ages four, two, and ten months and I'll watch them. In fact, I go out of my way trying to make sure that I do what I can for her (I pick up a soda for her every time I am heading home from work because she prefers fountain drinks). My folks even try to do extra stuff to help alleviate the stress (my sister gave us a bunch of extra cash as a Christmas present so I encouraged my wife to spend it on a hobby that she is developing).It is more than just feeling blah... You are running yourself ragged... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
isislc Posted January 23, 2009 Report Share Posted January 23, 2009 Anyone else?I work 80 hours a week...at the shop and at my other job....It seems I never catch a break, I come home everynight and have to cook and clean...Hubby works 4 hours a day and he does not even take his plate off the table.I always have laundry and dishes to do and I usually hit the bed past midnight, and get up at 4 am for my other job fri, sat and sunday, I work 6 am to 6pm.When I'm at the shop it's usually 9 am to 7 or 8 at night...I just needed to vent a bit. Hey, it's not winter blues and it isn't you. HE has the problem! I work 48-72 hrs a week, and if I'm lucky, get 1-3 hrs of sleep a day. I have laundry and dishes to do as well as the cooking. I'm also the one who is supposed to set up the babysitting because he doesn't have time to do it. I don't bother, the babysitter he wants me to get wants to be paid to just sit in one space the whole time and bark orders to the little one of what he's supposed to do while playing video games on the computer. Mine also works 32-40 hrs a week and always tells me he's trying to relax and he's so tired. Tell me that after working 6 12 hr days straight! I've been a very angry person recently because it seems like I get no help either. The things I have to look forward to is my boot camp where I get to see all my friends I've made and the peace and quiet coming in to work each night. Last week I was so tired after boot camp that I told my boss that my body felt like it was shutting down and I passed out. He let me sleep for 3 hours, knowing I needed it. I cope as best as I can. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jq26 Posted January 23, 2009 Report Share Posted January 23, 2009 What is up with that?Totally agree. That sounds ludicrous. Everything my wife and I do is 50/50. If she makes dinner, I clean up the dishes. I change at least as many diapers as she. I clean the house when needed, run errands, and grocery shop. That's just the way it is. We both work full-time, are both in school full-time, and that's just the way it is. We even split every monthly bill 50/50. It works great. She's as much my "business" partner as she is my wife. I feel for ya'. Very tough to deal with someone that doesn't pull their weight. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tommy32 Posted January 23, 2009 Report Share Posted January 23, 2009 Me too....working lots of OT....and weekend call...I hate it....I would rather be home playing video games.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
someonesomewhere Posted January 23, 2009 Report Share Posted January 23, 2009 And we need to get our house finished.1000.00 in electric bills this month between the shop and the house.I could go on and on, but you would just fall asleep.Not me. I'm in a similar but smaller dingy. My electric is only about $325 a month (so don't love baseboard electric heat), and there's a burn ban likely through today or tomorrow so I can't offset using the woodburning stove insert. However, Puget Sound Energy tells me, using their online estimator, the average for a house my size in my area is spending over $500 a month on electric.SWMBO wants a kitchen remodel, but I tell her that's several years away, at least. Gotta do more to seal the house up tighter, roll out more insulation in the attic, et al. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jq26 Posted January 23, 2009 Report Share Posted January 23, 2009 $500? My electric bill is never more than $60 in the winter and $175 in the 90+ degree summer when I crank my air conditioning. Me thinks people either live in huge homes or need to learn to deal with seasonal temps a little better.My home is set at 58 degrees at night and 67 during the day. Seems to work for everyone. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
someonesomewhere Posted January 23, 2009 Report Share Posted January 23, 2009 $500? My electric bill is never more than $60 in the winter and $175 in the 90+ degree summer when I crank my air conditioning. Me thinks people either live in huge homes or need to learn to deal with seasonal temps a little better.My home is set at 58 degrees at night and 67 during the day. Seems to work for everyone.It's the reality of electric everything. Baseboard heat, hot water heater, stove, dryer. Natural gas line is about 400 feet and some $12K away. I'm looking into a buried propane tank and a policy of piecemeal appliance conversion.My electric is lower in the summer. No AC and much longer periods of daylight. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jq26 Posted January 23, 2009 Report Share Posted January 23, 2009 I see. I have NG for cooking, heating, and hot water. Probably cost me $25/month in the summer and $180/month in the dead of winter. All I can say is OUCH. We're a two income family and those kind of utility bills would still be intolerable. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
someonesomewhere Posted January 23, 2009 Report Share Posted January 23, 2009 Costs I read on tank installation are $1,800 to $3,000. Gas hot water will probably be first, and electric hot water is very inefficient. Should help the electric bill year round. Dryer probably next. That will help a little.But conversion from baseboard electric. That's gonna be a big pill to swallow. I'm looking at all sorts of options. Forced air with vents in the attic and registers on the ceiling (heat doesn't fall much so I don't like that idea), radiant electric (baseboard style units, but I can't anything saying I'll really save operating them), radiant electric (under the floor mats which means all new flooring and mostly not a DIY job), radiant hydronic (I really like this option but it's certainly isn't a DIY job). Some of these could run $16K or more from what I read. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chester P. Dexter Posted January 23, 2009 Report Share Posted January 23, 2009 Me thinks people either live in huge homes or need to learn to deal with seasonal temps a little better.Don't be so quick to think that, jq. I live not far from you but in a solidly built, yet not insulated (it's brick, concrete and steel, but they didn't care about energy efficient windows back in 1972) lovely apartment building. We just got a gas and electric bill for over $380. And this is while we shivered through the holidays and especially through the 7 degree temps a week or so back. That was brutal and we ran two space heaters way too much (driving the bill up) and still could hardly stay reasonably warm (chills in the middle of the night, the cat sitting only near the heater because every other place was too cold, you get the picture.)They are putting in new windows but it might be spring before our building is done.We run a lot of computers so our bill is about $100 or so in the non-heating, non-cooling few months of the year, but the extra 200-250 is from inefficient heat. And that does not even include heating our water. And we pay a ton of rent here, too: $1,285. These combined bills (a water bill that is phony, not metered, at $105 on top of all of this) is driving us broke. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jq26 Posted January 23, 2009 Report Share Posted January 23, 2009 OUCH. That sucks!!! Those utility bills are outrageous. And my home was built in 1939- there is no insulation in the walls either. I know because I had a major project done in '06 and the walls were opened. I guess in 1939 it wasn't really a priority.... Chester- that water bill doesn't seem right. For a family of three, one being an 8 month old baby that requires more washes and baths, my water bill is $32 every month. In fact, there was a period of time when I tried to grow grass and I would come from school every night and water my lawn for about an hour. My water bill spiked up to $48. That ended that. $105 is definitely fishy.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chester P. Dexter Posted January 23, 2009 Report Share Posted January 23, 2009 They don't even pretend the water bill is real. There are no meters. They "estimate" (read: Make up a figure) and then pro-rate it based on how many people are in the apt. Our neighbor lives in a similar-sized apt. but lives alone and pays $30. We paid about $75 because they only had two of our children on the lease. (not through any deception of ours - they changed management and were disorganized). As soon as they wrote down the names of our other two children, our bill went up to about $100.It's totally bogus - that's the only word for it. Homeowners around here pay about $30 per QUARTER.It makes us want to move because it seems like a true rip-off. It obviously goes right back to the apartment management (I'm sure they pay a real water and sewer bill that is about a fraction of what they collect from residents) so I just consider it additional rent, to keep myself sane. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jq26 Posted January 23, 2009 Report Share Posted January 23, 2009 OT- but your rent is my mortgage, taxes, insurance. And my utility bills seem to be lower. Come join us mortgage slaves- work all week and pay the man monthly- but with lower water bills. There is a "foreclosure" on our block listed for $50k less (22% less) than what I paid for my home in 2005. I am seriously thinking about buying it and just renting it out. The only thing holding me back is that my wife would kill me. But you should seriously look at it. PM me and I'll give you the address. Haverford School District.Edited to add that for some reason I thought Chester was from Philly. I now realize its Maryland. My mistake. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JustaTexan Posted January 23, 2009 Report Share Posted January 23, 2009 Damn I couldn't survive if I paid the utility bills you guys do. I have a 1350 sq. foot wooden house built in 1961 with old windows and doesn't seem to have the best seal on doors, etc. My electric bill is only around $125 a month in the really cold and really warm months, (Dec-Feb and July & August) But most of the year it is around $75. And my natural gas bill is around $27 a month. My water bill has never been more than $60. I have two small kids and we take LOTS of baths. WTH? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chester P. Dexter Posted January 23, 2009 Report Share Posted January 23, 2009 Oh, I didn't mean we live that close. We're in MD, close to Baltimore!Thanks, though!We will buy a house at some point but need to get some things in order, first. We're glad we did not buy anywhere near the height of the bubble.We moved here in 2001 and watched just the small no-basement townhouses (same size as our apt. but stacked on two floors, and owned, not rented) go from just under $100K in 2001 up to $280K a year ago. Now the prices are deflating a little but seem to be in the $230K range.It was unreal to watch prices double around us in just a few years. (2001-2006) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OMGWhatHaveIdone Posted January 23, 2009 Report Share Posted January 23, 2009 I grew up in B-more county. My mom still lives there. I travel down on the weekends to drop my girls off at her house. She drives up here on Sundays to bring them home. Anyway.... going back to Whocare's topic of feeling underappreciated.....That is exactly the reason why I'm single. I do everything here by myself. But, I don't have to get angry because my other half isn't pulling his share. I'm done with all of that. If I can't do it by myself, then I have a party and invite my friends over for free beer and food in exchange for their help. I have had to learn the hard way and it's made me more independent in the long run. I cook all meals, clean, do laundry, cut the lawn, take out the trash, fix the toilets when they break and on and on and on. My philosophy is quite simple. I would rather be single than be stuck with a man that doesn't know how to pull his fair share. I'm not suggesting that people just up and leave their partners, but my point is that sometimes being single is just simpler. No drama or BS to deal with. Been there done that, ain't never goin' back! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tommy32 Posted January 24, 2009 Report Share Posted January 24, 2009 This might be a little off topic...BUT I sure do enjoy watching our Apartment mantanance dudes plow snow, and snow blow...while I am watching from the window with coffee...LOL thats one plus to not owning a home up here in the north east...LOL Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
whocares Posted January 26, 2009 Author Report Share Posted January 26, 2009 LOL Tommy...I like watching too... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cracrap Posted January 26, 2009 Report Share Posted January 26, 2009 Costs I read on tank installation are $1,800 to $3,000. Gas hot water will probably be first, and electric hot water is very inefficient. Should help the electric bill year round. Dryer probably next. That will help a little.But conversion from baseboard electric. That's gonna be a big pill to swallow. I'm looking at all sorts of options. Forced air with vents in the attic and registers on the ceiling (heat doesn't fall much so I don't like that idea), radiant electric (baseboard style units, but I can't anything saying I'll really save operating them), radiant electric (under the floor mats which means all new flooring and mostly not a DIY job), radiant hydronic (I really like this option but it's certainly isn't a DIY job). Some of these could run $16K or more from what I read.u want a heat pump..i dont mean im offering onebut based on what u described, it sounds best for your application Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JustaTexan Posted January 26, 2009 Report Share Posted January 26, 2009 BUT I sure do enjoy watching LOL Tommy...I like watching too...Hehe, ya'll like to watch huh? :roflmao: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OMGWhatHaveIdone Posted January 26, 2009 Report Share Posted January 26, 2009 Ha Ha... maybe watching is all they are capable of doing Now that was funny... you have to admit that you at least smirked a little. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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